making plans to go down to the house and get my personal things like clothes,computer, etc. for this weekend. Bad idea, or good way to show that im moving on?

I asked him to not be at the home because i dont trust myself not to break down and look pathetic. He thought I didnt want to see him because im pissed. I told him no, its just too hard to see you.

H:25 M:25
T: 9 1/2 Yrs
M: 5 Yrs

trouble in paradise: 1/18
Big D: 2/10
EA confirmed 3/11
H Leaves me: 3/30
Files: 4/8
Served: 4/15
OW Confirmed: 8/6
Divorce Final: ???