Weird scenario

[Jeack]

Anotherstander,

2x4 accepted. The Facebook picture thing was really stupid and your absolutely right.

As far as anger and resent! Yes you are correct, I am hitting a anger and resent stage. And you are correct that it will show through. I have basically done nothing but try to make things easy for her. Yes I've begged and pleaded. But honestly I feel bad for her. she going to have a ruff life. I guess i almost treated her more like a child then my wife. and she doesn't realize how much i care for her.

I'm just at the point where I worry, more than care for her. I want her to do well and be successful. Yes I was emotionally abusive,But at the same point she was to. Not to point fingers. But she was miserable with life. All I ever wanted from her was to come home give me a kiss and tell me about her day.

When we first bought the house she never felt like it was hers and she felt out of place and missed her mom. I tried everything to make her feel like it was us rather than me.

I think her financial burden and lack of being able to contribute was a big factor. which I didn't care until she would want more and more. which I couldnt do. Which in my C eyes is why she has gone back to familiar grounds where OM has just as much debt no kids and she feels no pressure.Which is ashame because she is a great girl with so much potential.

You say that she wouldn't leave if things were so great! I've tried read my story i've bent over backwards to try to make her happy. She said I drank to much. So I quit, then she said I was boring and we should drink again. I've done and bent over backwards so many times and have tried to be supportive of her and it's gotten me no where.

She was in school for 10 years without a degree and a massive amount of debt. Did I care? NO!

Then she wants to have kids in December after wanting to leave in October and me saying lets work on our relationship before kids??? Was probably a wise move on my part.

Do I love her still? Yes but i've made some dumb moves, but not as many as her.

So I appreciate the 2x4, I really do and i've always tried, and have done so many 180's before and now. But I just can't "fix" someone who doesn't want to be better.

I truly com here to the forum for help and guidance and I appreciate all that the wise experts have to say. But there comes a time where enough is enough. even when you don't want to.