Almost two years and still stuck in limbo

[newman7977]

JP, thanks on your thoughts. Yes upon consideration on exposing the EA to OM W, I took a risk. I knew it could backfire, but I needed it for my sanity. Lets just leave it at that, I have my reasons and I do admit that's not a DB way.

Sandi2 thanks for stopping by and giving me some time to write your perspective. I really appreciate and it helps me tremendously. You gave me a good view from the outside...looks like an excellent roadmap.

So if there's one thing you would say, that was the turning point where you gain respect for your H, what would it be? Is it his firm stance on telling you there's no coming back if you leave? I just realized then that you gone through this journey while living in the same roof! It looks like there is hope in my sitch then. W & I both don't want to leave the house because of the kids.

But I'm very firm that she doesn't contact him. She knows I'm out if I find a solid proof. I just know our M don't stand a chance while she's in an EA. Yes I'm also caution about thinking OM is out of the picture. Even if he's gone physically he's in her head, yes I noticed that too. It's only been 4 days since the obvious contact...we'll see how this pans out. Hopefully something click in her mind. But I'll be ok too if she can't let go of OM, I will let her go and move forward.

Thank you again Sandi! Hope to hear back from you.

Newman