I just saw your post about him not wanting you back in the house, or he would move out.
I understand if you do not want to think about D right now, but you really should be sure of your legal rights. And, beyond that, your legal obligations, such as your portion of any debt, even if that debt is accumulated by him, during your undocumented separation.
Regarding him suggesting he is not missing you, IF your H is having a crises, it is likely you will begin to hear a lot of "script" from him. He may not think he is missing you right now, but he certainly IS thinking about you. As indicated by the comm from him. AND, a crises can create a condition where his memory may be a little... off... if not (unconsciously) selective. Even re-writing your history together.
Just understand that this would be "normal".
Along with that "normal" will be his blaming you for everything, as you are starting to notice.
It is OK to be angry, it will be one of the emotions you will go through during this process. Being angry means that you are not detached. When you truly become detached, you will not have (a whole lot of) emotional attachment to things he may say or do, yet you will find that you still can love him.
While it may be difficult to speak to his LL of physical touch, there certainly will be times of contact, even if it is just text, email, or phone. During these times, Quality Time and Words of Affirmation CAN be part of how you interact with him. Just so long as, AT THIS TIME, they do not include anything to do with your relationship with him.
Does that make sense?
Please read the topic in a sticky in the Newcomers forum (the one your thread is in) called "Sandi's rules". There are a few things that you really will want to get a handle on, such as venting at him, or pleading with him, and of course the detaching.
You definitely want to stop chasing him. Depending on his state of mind, he will eventually stop running AND... he could possibly start contact you more... because he will be trying to figure out where your head is at. Stay clear from the R talks in any comm. Again, read Sandi's rules. They definitely apply to you, right now.
