Still treading water #4

[Grizz]

So W just comes in and says "does it matter if I find a place close to here or across town?"
Me: I don't guess, why?
W: I just thought if I was close then the kids would ask to go back and forth.

Me: I don't know. That is your decision. I think the kids are going to ask to see mom or dad no matter where you live. If we didnt live close it would be easier for us to say no, they live too far away.

W: I am thinking about moving across town (15-20 minute drive). But tell me if you are going to sell the house because I would like to keep it.

Me: If I sell it, it will be because I can't afford it so I'm not sure how you could. (She makes less than me).

W: interests rates are good right now. It wouldn't be much more than rent.

Me: if I refinance it to give you your equity then it would go up around $300 per month. That's alot different.

W: well I don't know.

Me: how do you feel about all of this?
W: I don't know.

Me: so you are leaving as soon as you find a place.
W: we talked about this two weeks ago (yes)

W: we can talk more about this later after I look at a few other places this weekend.
Me: ok

There was some more but these were the main points. It was a very cordial and non confrontational discussion.

It amazes me how matter of fact she is when discussing the kids. She shows no emotion at all. This will absolutely kill my 8 year old especially. It breaks my heart to know what they are going to go through.

I wanted to say soooo much to her during this conversation but I didn't. I just want to scream!!!

She had been so nice, friendly and open over the past 2 weeks. Probably because she has told me she is leaving and it is out in the open. Like today, she sent me a text of a picture of her lunch. She was eating at one of our favorite places. Why do that? You are cutting ties with me so just freakin cut them. Why act like we are great friends? She has said that she wants to be friends but really, is that possible? Right now my feelings are that when she leaves then I want to see and hear the least amount possible from her.

Isn't it sweet of her to want my opinion on where she should live (sarcasm). And isn't it nice for her to reassure me that I can afford to keep the house because she doesn't want the kids to lose their home?

She frustrates me to the end of the earth!