Yes, so familiar. I will take your advice. As long as he's willing to participate, I will view it as a positive. I'm so sorry for your pain and thank you for reaching out to me.
Tonight he became angry again (which, as I mentioned before, is rare for him) because I had a painter come over to do an estimate on the house last week.The painter called today with the numbers and H was home. The house needs to be painted, and H won't be living here, and I knew it would boost my spirits (and the kids) to see me taking care of the house and making things pretty again. I also want to be realistic that I might have to sell it within the next couple of years.
He was livid that I would do this without consulting him and started to cry. I assured him I had no intention of making a decision without him, but that I just wanted to get the cost to figure out how I could break it up over the summer (which is the truth.) Painting the house is something I've wanted to do for awhile--is it wrong that I am moving forward with things I've been wanting to do? He took it as a personal criticism--that he hasn't been doing enough and that I just want him out so I can move on with my life with the boys.
He's the one that just rented an apartment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Our life has been in limbo for the last year, I need to feel good about moving forward with things--he sees me as cutting him out of the picture.
He wants to move out and find his happiness, as he has told me. Is it wrong that I want to find my happiness here with the kids?
My head is splitting.
thanks for listening (((()))))
Me 47/H 47 M 19/T 21 S 11 S 11 BD #1: April 2012 H Moved out 11/2012 for 2 months BD #2: H "can't do this anymore, wants divorce" 4/10/2013 Retrouvaille 4/19/2013
