He also admits that he probably would be able to get on board with all of this and wouldn't feel as bad about himself if he hadn't been pushed aside by his parents. They went through a horrible divorce and he and his sisters were basically ignored as teenagers. He didn't have a place to come home to during college breaks. He has always been a bit of a loner and has carried the weight of the world on his shoulders.
He felt abandoned by his parents and feels that I did the same thing to him. I wasn't there for him emotionally. I was there in a way that I guess had meaning for me--doing things for him, taking care of the family, little gifts that told him I was thinking of him, supporting his interests, etc (5 love languages--I am acts of service, he needs the physical.) He did not care about any of that and feels that I ignored his emotional needs.
In therapy I have worked hard to understand why I did this and have been showing him throughout the past year that I get it and how important it is to me. He says he sees the progress and thanks me but that "it's still not enough."
Me 47/H 47 M 19/T 21 S 11 S 11 BD #1: April 2012 H Moved out 11/2012 for 2 months BD #2: H "can't do this anymore, wants divorce" 4/10/2013 Retrouvaille 4/19/2013
