Prepare yourself for some 2x4's, look away if you're squeamish
Originally Posted By: Jeack
Pretty crazy how you can spend so much time and energy in a M for them to just runaway and not look back.
That sounds angry/ resentful. You admitted to being emotionally abusive in the M, so clearly you played a part in her leaving. You need to own that. She didn't run away from a fantastic marriage, no one does that. Don't think this is easy on your W, it's not. She's going through a lot right now. If you're angry/ resentful it's going to show through in everything you say/ do to her. If instead you are kind, compassionate and respectful then that will get her attention. Your actions can either drive her farther away or draw her back in.
Originally Posted By: Jeack
Such a weird night. So I went out soe friends and a friend asked me to see what my W OM looked like so I showed him on my phone. Little did I know that he was going to friend request him thru FB. I get a call about 30 minutes later with W flipping out saying i'm being a child and she's going to take me to the cleaners now. I guess the leason learned is. Don't mess with Facebook around people that are drinking. they all thought it was funny but I was sober and now dealing with the repercussions.
Another lesson might be "treat W with dignity and respect." Showing around pics of OM at a booze-fueled outing sounds a bit juvenile, don't you think?
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Doesn't really matter anyway. W is happy with OM. her loss
I'm trying to picture why it's a big loss to her to lose an emotionally abusive H who likes to go out partying and show around pics of OM to a bunch of drunkards for some laughs. I'm sure you have your good points too, but here's the deal- the WAS only remembers the bad. Do not give her more reasons to want you gone. You've got to give her reasons to LIKE you instead. That's what DB'ing is all about. Own your mistakes, change them. Do 180's. Become the spouse only a fool would leave. Do not do "more of the same" behavior. These are the steps to bringing your W back.
