You can speak to your h about it, but I don't think he'll see the light on this because in the mlcer's mind, the kids are fine and will bounce back w/o any problem.
Hi Snodderly - Thank you for the advice. I called his school and spoke to his teacher and guidance counselor. The GC gave me a number to call that may be able to offer services to assist and the GC also will talk to my son to see if that is his current issues or not. I suspect it is as the timing of everything fits to around Easter and that is when i stopped talking to H and the last holiday we spent as a family (sorta), and about the last time I directed a conversation with the kids about what is going on.
Right now my two sons are at odds with the sitch. I have been trying to involve their Dad in functions, but only if they and he wanted to. Right now, my one son (S14) does not want to include H and is leaning on the side of not wanting to do anything with him. He has openly expressed to me that he doesn't like going with Dad over the weekends, and is tired of going back and forth between us two, and that Dad's house is boring. My youngest is the exact opposite, with the exception of the boring part. He agrees, going to Dad's is boring and he never wants to do anything.
I am hurt that it seems that the only person gaining any satisfaction of this separation is H. To further the matters, because of me trying to get my bearings, detaching, PMA, GAL, etc., I don't feel that I want my H back either. Which I know will kill the boys if my H would ever have a change of heart and/or come out of this.
My children have been priority number one, but with so much indecision and feelings all over the board, I don't see a wrong or right thing to do anymore.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
