It initially really shocked me that he would go on a 10-day vacation when we don't know how we'll pay the rent in June...
It really is mind-boggling. This is the kind of stuff that screams "MLC" rather than "WAS".
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I have no choice now - he will not work with me to figure out together how to pay the bills until he finds a new job. I now have to go out and find a job so I can pay my rent next month and make sure my kids have a place to live.
Honestly I think you should have been there a long time ago, your H has demonstrated that you can't rely on him anymore. He's not the responsible H you once knew. Time for you to take control of your sitch. Congrats on the job offer
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It states that H will not seek alimony or support from me while I work and he is unemployed. It also states that he will still be responsible for 50% of the kids' expenses regardless of his employment status.
Sounds good on paper, but if he's not employed, how do you expect him to cover those expenses? He may very well agree to it just to get his divorce, but with no intention of actually meeting the terms (or more likely, without thinking about how he can meet them). He'll join the ranks of the zillions of "deadbeat dads" out there. I'm not saying you shouldn't put it in there, I'm just saying don't expect to collect on it. Now that you're joining the work force again and taking control of your finances I'm sure you'll be doing an expense spreadsheet. I wouldn't include any contributions from H in it for now. Try and make your budget work without him. Then if he does pay, well you'll be that much better off.
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The reasoning behind the doc is that if he doesn't help with the expenses, my salary won't be enough to cover everything, and if I am going to acquire more debt even when working, then I might as well stay home as I have done so far and at least be with my kids.
I don't understand that logic. Making some money and carrying some debt is a far better sitch than making no money and carrying a lot of debt. Take the job. Cut your expenses to the bone. You can make it work.
