A New Beginning - after 2 years...

[Accuray]

KG, so glad you're feeling good and congratulations on finding a job so quickly! It makes me angry because H could certainly go find a job if he were motivated, it may not be the great job he's looking for but at some point you just have to make money right?

WRT this:

I also told him that this is not about the job search but that I am hurt because I feel like he basically has washed his hands and left it all up to me now to figure out alone how to support our kids or else they would be homeless in a month. I said that it made me feel like he just doesn't care what happens to them when they are with me, but that the important thing for me now is to figure how to support them.

That's a pretty good dose of shame you laid on him right? "Them's fightin' words" as Yosemite Sam would say.

Given his status right now maybe it's not a good idea to share how you're feeling or your disappointments in him?

If you really want to focus on having a good co-parenting relationship for the sake of the kids, I'd vent your feelings here, rely on your lawyer to handle the unpleasantries, and keep things with H friendly and factual.

I say that knowing how painful it is, because you have every right to be super mad at him. The guy left you with very young kids, hasn't been working, and has been spending money on vacations with OW, it's reprehensible behavior, it really is. The anger has to come out, I think it just needs to go somewhere else unless you're completely ready to write him off.

Accuray