Taking a step back-a fresh start

[cbtdad]

JP,
I appreciate your thoughts and they are spot on for what I plan to do when she gets back. Over these next 10 days the only contact I will have with her is text about son. I am fine either way if we make it to MC or not. If we do not your list is exactly what I plan to do. Drop all R and MC talk. I won't discuss anything with her other son at that point. I feel great about that. I just know I have to keep busy during these next 10 days to keep "OM thoughts" out of my head.
I've heard horror stories about MC's, but fortunately that's not the case for ours.
W and I saw her once I beginning of year. W really liked her and knows that she is very pro marriage. The first time she saw us she suggested we separate for a few months and then come back and see her if we decide to work on things.
She wouldn't even move forward with seeing us if it wasnt to work on marriage.
She does EFT couples therapy which I've read has over a 75% success rate.
So if we do go W knows its to talk about moving forward with us.
If we don't go then that ok as well. I will continue to work on me and only discuss son things with wife.
Here is what plans are to stay busy over next 10 days:
1. Reread DR
2. Spend lots of QT with son since I will have him majority of time.
He is going with her Sunday night thru Wed morning
3. Work and workout
4. Next weekend going to cousins house with son for the weekend were will bbq and swim and stay busy!

I don't see 5/7 as all or nothing date. I guess it's just a temp check date. We shall see