Ok so I have more time to write about what she said last night. About 5 or 6 weeks ago she made plans for the summer to go to a concert with 2 of her girlfriends. When she bought the tickets I made a comment something like "I'll be down vacation house with kids etc.." Later in the same day I made the same comment at a party and she snapped at me about it. I didn't think anything about it accept maybe I was annoying. She told me last night when I approached her that is my same old behavior. She can't even make plans without me saying something. I told her I was sorry that I made her feel that way but the reality is I am pumped she is going. She even got mad at that comment. saying why can't you just say nothing or don't say your excited for me.
The conversation didn't escalate but it went no where. She said she isn't attracted to a person that acts like this. Now maybe my comment were ANNOYING they certainly weren't controlling. I mean I paid for the tickets and never told her not to go. Maybe my guilt comments just pissed her off but I don't understand how this sets us back to square 1. She is acting like she was before. Her exact words were "I feel about you like I did before"
I tried to bring up that we need to address problems when they happen. Not 6 weeks later. Why fester. How is that healthy relationship. She had an excuse for that too. Something along the lines of I would bring it up but I know your answer already.
This is same W that told me just weeks ago even after the incident that I've changed. We literally just got back from vacation less then a week ago. I feel totally blindsided by this.
She also said that her neighbor friend asked her if I was mad if she was going to the concert. Further justfying her thoughts about me. I said you ever think she thought that because you snapped at my comment in front of her.
I tried talking to her briefly before work but after about 1 minute I saw it going nowhere.
I'm exhausted and frustrated beyond belief. I even asked her about going to counseling to work on communication amongst us. That most relationships fail because of lack of communication. I mean I don't mind her being upset for a few days or so but if this turns into the cold shoulder, no sex, silent treatment crap again I don't think I can pull it off again. Just being honest. I know I am emotional right now so I'll treat this post as a journal. Like how I journal in real life.
I did own my passive/aggressive comment. I apologized but she kept saying "I don't want to get apology every time" That you don't even know you do it. I asked how am I going to know that your upset without you telling me.
