Confused about what I want

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Question for LBS With kids (or others if they have any experience to offer)

My S9 has been acting up in school that warranted a phone call from his teacher. Unfortunately the teacher called H, so I am awaiting a return phone call from the teacher myself. I can only assume it is in regards to this separation. I feel I have done as much as I can to get them comfortable and open about what is going on. H does not want to participate and wants me to "handle" things. Not sure what more I can do about it other than therapy which I cannot afford to do, and H disagrees with, so will not help with the expense. Also, if I do get them into therapy the only time I can take them is when H has them...with him in so much dis-agreement of it, I know he will not take them or allow me to take them on his time. What do I do? Do I let it run its course until I am in a better position to do so? Do I try to get H to see the light? I will be honest and say that I stopped openly asking the kids about their feelings on things about a month ago as the pain I saw my children going through seemed tortuous on them and myself and I never really had answers to provide to thier questions (or ones that I wanted to give them). Maybe the answer is to openly talk to them again and let the emotions, pain, hurt, anger and all run its course. I just didn't want to push the kids into feeling any kind of way and thought they should follow their own path.

So emotional this morning...my boys are my everything. What can I do?