Omg NLW. You hit paydirt!!! That's the kind of stuff I started coming across. And I wasn't really even "snooping". It's posted on the internet. Anyone can see it!!
What a cretin!!! Forward that to your lawyer now and wait for your lawyer to reply. I know it's hard, but don't say one word to your H. Keep calm and carry on. Let him find out from your attorney or in court. If you let him know right away he has time to remove the pictures or come up with an alibi or story. H and OW were posted all over Facebook lovey-dovey. She has since blocked me, but not before I downloaded all the photos to my phone and took screenshots of conversations. Too little, too late.
Fight hard. Fight for what is right and fair for you and the kids. Keep praying. It's working.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
OMG... I am speechless. I am so sorry you are dealing with these kinds of things. It sounds like out of a movie or something. I agree with KD, forward all photos and info to your L.
There MUST be something to be done about this - I simply cannot believe someone can get away with this.
Hang in there - you have survived so much and can get out of this too...
(((NLW))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
It seems pretty unreal to me too. But I am so much more detached than ever i thought possible. Seeing the photos would have broken my heart once. Now I see it as a big advantage.
Not only for pricking his outrageous balloon of a hard-luck story, but also for allowing me to move on. I mean really... some things are just too much to bear.
I still have some sedimentary sadness about what's happened to him, but he seems so far gone. My H is dead, that's for sure.
I know you have been through so much already, and I am sorry you are continuing to face challenges. Your right my H is dead and gone as well. You do sound like your on a good path. I pray there will be a silver lining for us all.
<3 dm
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
I am appalled reading about the latest outcomes. I still can't wrap my head around how some people can put their own needs and wants above their kids. Yes they're in a crisis.. But doesn't excuse the behaviour.
The only thing that seems evident is the fact that your kids are not blinded but what's going on and know and appreciate better everything you have done and continue to do for them.
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
Last time Judge insisted that STBX couldn't have his D until arrangements were made for CS.
New Judge today wasn't that fussed. She granted the D. So now I have an XH. Wow.
Surreality continued.
He arrived 30 mins early and we stood and talked like old friends. Chatting and laughing about everything in our lives.
We walked to the court door together and he sat next to me in the gallery as we waited for our case to be called. We were the only H & W who both attended, let alone sat together!
After the hearing, he asked me if I wanted a coffee.
Off we went to a little cafe that we'd always frequented. He offered to buy me lunch.
We sat and talked and laughed again for about an hour. He bragged a bit about knowing several important people about town (restaurant owners, prof sports people, politicians).
Then he apologised for having to leave to go to work. He walked me out and then offered to drive me back to my place of work - after telling me he was going in the opposite direction.
I was wearing a tight pencil skirt and high heels and was having difficulty walking at other than hobble pace, so I apologised. he said I'm in no rush, I enjoy the slow pace.
Weird.
He drove me right to my work door and I gave him a megawatt smile as I extracted myself from the passenger seat seductively (couldn't help it; wanted to give him something to remember!).
He returned the smile and it seemed we were just like we used to be in the good old days before any of this awfulness emerged.
WTF is going on??? This was definitely Dr Jekyll, not Mr Hyde.
Oooh, I forgot. He even asked me how my dad was going.
This is the man who treated him like a son, but who is now on his very last legs - he is 89 and bed-ridden and has deteriorated to this near-end state during the time XH has been 'away'.
Until now, XH has not even asked if my dad is dead or alive, despite knowing how ill he has become.
Weird. My guess is since the D was granted he feels some sort of relief. Of course I am no expert but that's my gut. Interested to see what others say. But my H does the same thing. Like my signature says he wants us to be "best Friends".
My guess is, NLW, that Mr. Hyde will come back when things aren't going his way. When the financial side needs to get settled he will get ugly again.
Hang in there.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
WH, 2Chiq, Thanks for helping me understand this - it's a pretty big day in any case, and to have the behaviour switch thrown likes this makes it even harder to 'accept' in some ways.
I really need to hear some understanding voices...
Just got home and found XH here with the kids - they're on school hols still.
Now, he hasn't been near them for over a month, i think. Gets D-ed and immediately turns up back at our house.
He stayed for about 10 mins after i arrived.
He called me by his pet name for me while he was here, and came into another room specifically to say goodbye when he was leaving. Like he's done THAT in the last year!
He even said he would have come to the movies this afternoon with us when S14 told him we were going and asked him to come - but said if only he'd been given more notice he could have rostered on some staff to cover his shift.
Now previously, e.g., in early pursuing days, we would ask and ask for him to come to the movies with us and he'd refuse every time.
Is it time to roll down the shutters or open the door a crack?
