Sizing up the task ahead!

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Hi FY

Hyper focus on the M, or MLC, or even excessive posting and reading on this board will burn you out./quote]

Very true, starting to feel that - and worry my focus is become this forum not my own life. It does get the point where you think constant reading will undercover the magic answer - i know it won't, but in this day and age you think everything has a cure.

[quote]Doormat behavior and walking on eggshells is very unattractive. Possible OM certainly is not doing any of this.

This is something I am starting to believe. I need to work on my calm assertive approach to things. It will make me feel much better to be able to be like this, I hate walking on eggshells. I feel like i have been on edge around W for years now.

My wife and I almost never argue. I was always a peace keeper at all costs. It didn't prevent us from falling out of love with me.

This has been me. Keeping the peace. Thinking an argument is the end of the world. Think its because my parents never really argued that much, amazing how your upbringing can effect you. My W's family are very fiery and argumentative so you can see where the clash comes in to our R.