WAS Moving out date 1 May 2012

[Rockwallaby]

Little GTO thanks great tips. Wish I had read this when bomb was dropped 6 months ago.

I agree on house, in the end it was her choice to leave, I had given a ultimatum but I retracted this and gave her my word she can stay. She still signed the lease. She is I think still in fog and convinced that love cannot return between us. Iam focusing on the things I can change for me and my children. I am working through my feelings and emotions, (fear of being alone, sadness at the loss and the hurt of EA and PA) and looking forward on my own future and career.

I know she is also working through her own issues from her past, I think her WA is as much to do with this as me, I have to let her do that and let go of the attachment. I like the fake it to you make it as that is exactly how I feel. we were talking about her being away from work in the future and it immediately stirs emotions which I need to work through but not project on her.

I know in future I ned to make sure my own needs are being met and no let things go unsaid between me and my partner. I need to listen and let them know how much I care.

I am reading DR and have made so many mistakes, making affair public, pressuring and arguing back. after six months it might be too late to change the damage that has been done. I know there is no point worrying on that, it is done and I am day by day focusing on how I am now, not then. I will make these changes stick and not let her drag me back.