darth vader and i

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BF - My only sournce of info is my empirical sample of just 1 case - mine...
(and obviously my POV is biased - lol)

My H has now been with OW for over 2 years. Their EA started before he left and their PA just three months after that. They have been in a steady, serious and open R for almost two years and they spend time with each others families and each others kids frequently.

My H told me he has realized all the mistakes he made in our M and that he has learned from them. That would seem like a good sign for me, right?
The kicker - he also said that he is now taking all that learning and making sure he doesn't make the same mistakes in his R with OW...

Do I feel I have a chance?

IDK, I am starting to believe that he might be right - perhaps we were just not right for each other and perhaps she is the right one for him. They both come from failed M and are very motivated to make their R succeed.

So I can be a wife only a fool would leave, but if my H won't even turn to see me because he is happy elsewhere, what chance would I have for him to notice any change?

I know we read around here that the percentages of second marriages that succeed is small. Yet there are also those second marriages that last a lifetime because of this reason - people learn from the mistakes from the first M and know better the second time around.

Again - this is just my biased .02...