MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

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Thank you for the response. I agree I will be a better me whether he notices or not. I was at a different level with all this today and then my S calls tonight and he had dinner with XH and I asked so how's your dad and he says really happy doing very well. Seriously! And that his dad wants him to meet OW. I just came crashing down. I know he'll have to meet her sometime. Just weird. Weird and awkward. And so hurt that this is how it is. And yet so detached and removed from me and our 25 years even to our kids I'm just a anonymous figure.

My D told me he got my email and I text him a picture of our D. He never responded but i didn't expect him to. Told my D he was damned if he did because it would only open door of opportunity for us to have text war (which it has turned into in past with each of us defending and accusing) and if he doesn't respond he thinks I'm bashing him because he can't reply. Either way he's noticing me. But not in a good way and I'm trying to change that. Do 180 and opposite of what I've always done. Maybe just leave it alone. I just wanted to set up some ground work before he visits at end of may.

How do you live through this viewing his life as if it's an episode on a lifetime movie and not get emotionally involved. I mean the process of them returning by being friends and to be easily approachable meanwhile they're living this life with someone else after the destruction thet left behind. Does it really crash on them? How do LBS deal with this?