Taking a step back-a fresh start

[cbtdad]

She has smoked pot once in a blue moon here or there. Maybe 3 times since 2008. But to actually have some and to keep it in house where son is way out there for her. She also drinks more than she ever did as well.
She was 22 when we got married and 24 when son was born. I think she is thinking she missed out on some things.
Interesting part is we did get into R talk. I asked her about MC appt on 5/7 which I shouldn't have an she said to keep the appt and we'll douse after the show.
She also said that she realizes that there is a lot of work award of us if we commit to work on marriage. She said, "have I ever fully committed to doing that" I said no.
She said that's what she is confused about. If she decides to work on M she wants to fully commit to do that. I just said, I want to try to make it work. I told her I'm not sure if I want it to work or if it can. I told her I feel as confused as she is now and let's just not discuss anymore till after her horse show is over