Taking a step back-a fresh start

[cbtdad]

So I found out something tonight that upset me and I confronted W about it right away.
My BIL informed that he was looking for something in his closet at his moms house where W is currently staying and he found some marijuana and a pipe.
Really!! In the same house and room that my 3 and half year old plays in. I was pissed to say the least.
I went straight to the house and asked her how long she has been smoking weed. She said, "what are you talking about?"
I told her what her brother told me he found. She just said ok.
I said then why did you ask me what I'm talking about. Her response, because I don't owe you any answers. I said when it comes to illegal drugs in the house where my son is you damn well do owe me answers.
We talked about it and I calmed down. I told her I honestly don't care if she wants to smoke, I just don't like the idea of it in the house with my son.
She got upset that I came over and dicussed this the day before the show knowing she's already stressed. I told her sorry hat wasnt something I could let stew for 10 days.
This really has me once again questioning if I want this to work or not.
I don't know who this woman is!