I agree with snodderly, you had the best now let her have the crap that's left smile

I know all too well what your feeling, as much as you read you still don't quite get what happened to your lovely, caring and kind husband. To detach I've heard you have to fake it till you make it.

You have goals to lose weight, start running etc...focus on those things for you nd he might take notice but if he doesn't then you'll at the véry least will feel better about yourself.

I'm not great at this advice stuff but I hope this helps a bit.

M 41 H 43
M 22
S 18 S 14 D 11
Affair discovered 1/12
He filed 2/12
OW#2 7/12 she lives next door.
D pending