Looks like the end is just around the corner!

[jaytee35]

Well guys,

Looks likes my marathon is coming to a end. Just received correspondence from my attorney stating that my wife has agreed to all arrangements and wants to finalize. I have tried everything the DR tells me to do...I guess at this point I am all out of options..currently I am using the dark technique. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do from here! Hopeless and desperate....

[Cadet]

Divorce is just a piece of paper.

Actually IMHO you get to choose when it is the end.

I understand that you have not gotten that choice yet but I believe eventually you will get the choice.

Move forward with your life and live it to the fullest.

Dont waste anytime looking back other than to look at yourself and to FIX those things that make you an awesome person.

Continue to stay as dark as possible and let her control the contact.

You may go throught the stages of grief again and that is perfectly normal.

Knowledge is Power

[jaytee35]

Yes you are right, divorce is just a paper. I just am not ready to give up yet! Should I try a different technique other than going dark? Maybe try to contact her weekly just to say hi or something. I have no clue what to do at this point. Do I just stay dark and only commicate if she initiates it? The problem is she never contacts me so I am feeling like I need to do something!

Starting panic knowing this is coming to a close!

[Cadet]

Do I just stay dark and only commicate if she initiates it? The problem is she never contacts me so I am feeling like I need to do something!

Starting panic knowing this is coming to a close!

Yes IMHO you should stay DARK and Move Forward with your life.
You need her to pursue you, if not then you will be caught in a different cycle that you will never break.

Never is a very long time, and it is a possibility that you may need to accept.

This whole process takes so long that people tend to use words like never and ever.

Your relationship changed at BD and if you ever hope to build a new one you need to let go.

[jaytee35]

I understand cadet!

I also am wondering. My gift to my wife for our wedding was tickets to the country music festival in Nashville this year. The tickets are set to arrive in early may. I am curious to what anyone out there would do? Would you guys keep the to tickets and sell them or would you still give the tickets to your waw's. I feel like I should still let her have them whether we are together or not since it was a gift and I already cashed in her gift to me which was a trip to New Orleans last fall. Any suggestions on how to handle this without pursuing would be appreciated!