non violent communication.. that's a good one. H and i use to joke about speaking giraffe. imago is also another one to look at.
i'm glad you're finding peace. i hope everything works out in terms of the job. i think i'm at a similar place. now that my H is officially in his own place, then the bills here are now my responsibility. and with that responsibility.. there is a sense of empowerment because exactly like you.. i can now plan my life accordingly. how much do i have to spend? do i have to work more? can i afford to take the kids away? it may be more challenging.. but it is better than the limbo.
((( )))
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11