Crimson........Winds of change blowing???

[azguy]

Hi Crimson, Great to hear! I admire your patience and consistency. Can I ask you to document what helps you make progress in this next stage? It seems to me that you are moving past where DB techniques are obviously applicable. I am curious what works as you attempt to forge a new R that has such a history. I realize this is a selfish request. Maybe it will help you too?

I'll try to offer one bit of advice, but you know I am well behind you, so take it with a grain of salt. You mention working on controlling negative aspects of your past R in your previous post (anger, etc. ). Are you looking for ways you can inject new positive experiences into your interaction? One blog I like to read (Marry, Divorce, Reconcile) is notable in the returning spouse talking about how brave the LBS spouse is to allow her back in. Your roles are reversed, but if you are enjoying things she is doing now she didn't do earlier, are you making sure to celebrate them and really enjoy them?

Good luck! I enjoy seeing your progress!