After phone coaching session #2

[azguy]

So, your H wants to work on better parenting interactions. So do you. This seems like the perfect opportunity to practice that. Could you tell him some form of what you just told us, both your fears of problems and hopes of how it could be? I'll cherry pick from your sentences to get a rough draft:

"The school she chose, is the most expensive. I'd like for her to consider the state schools she was accepted at but she's pretty determined. [I'm worried because you're the one] paying for college, and D says you don't care where she chooses. I don't want you feeling overburdened about the expense and feeling like you have to work too much again." Maybe some more of what you are hoping to learn in a conversation with him.

Maybe this doesn't make sense for you, but just a thought.

Oh, and the self-righteous/mopey me comes out on Sunday. I don't know why. I welcome him every week and try not to let him have too much control