Long Road Ahead

[GummyBear]

Cadet.....

So... When she approaches and says "what's wrong you can talk to me" what do you say?

[~ kd ~]

I had a phone appointment with Michelle... She suggested that I act like we were freshly dating... This was neutral received.....

Can you explain how you followed up with this suggestion (how did you / would you act like you were freshly dating) and how was this neutrally received?

[Cadet]

Cadet.....

So... When she approaches and says "what's wrong you can talk to me" what do you say?

You can let her control the contact and the conversation.

At that point you can validate her feelings as long as she does not break any of your boundaries.

[GummyBear]

I had a phone appointment with Michelle... She suggested that I act like we were freshly dating... This was neutral received.....

Can you explain how you followed up with this suggestion (how did you / would you act like you were freshly dating) and how was this neutrally received?

We had a nice night ... Had a very nice time...

Then two days later she went back to being chilly/neutral

The confusing thing im experiencing is that Michelle suggested that since we weren't spending a ton of time together etc, to 180

My next phone consult suggested to get to know the LRT

[Cadet]

We had a nice night ... Had a very nice time...

Then two days later she went back to being chilly/neutral

It is confusing because if she is in MLC then she cycles, and her cycles have nothing to do with you.

You can make it worse but you cant make it better.

That is why they are suggesting LRT.

So you dont make it worse.

[GummyBear]

Thank you - makes sense

[GummyBear]

Cadet.....

So... When she approaches and says "what's wrong you can talk to me" what do you say?

You can let her control the contact and the conversation.

At that point you can validate her feelings as long as she does not break any of your boundaries.

Are there any suggested boundaries?

[Cadet]

Are there any suggested boundaries?

You wont be in a relationship with her if she is in one with someone else.

[GummyBear]

Thank you --- we've had this quick talk.

[GummyBear]

Thx to all - had a couple of nuce meetups.... Not100% dark or LRT .... Combining the book with db phone consult has worked wonders