I need to show I am detached and do this in a way that is not emotional. Any advice?
Your statement is contradictory. If you ARE detached, it will NOT be emotional. Detaching begins with not being emotionally attached to an outcome. Get yourself used to a possible reality that your M may actually end. Work through what ever emotions you have. This will help you become detached from that possible outcome which in turn will allow you to be less attached to anything she may say or do, towards that end, in the future.
Firstly Kaffe thank you for a great reply, it helps a lot. I did not express this very well. What I was saying was when I tried to detach, WAS reacted with "what's wrong?" And then tried to turn it on me, saying I was not being civil by being unwilling to talk. I need to workout how I let this reaction go and let her own it.
I am waiting for her to make move on separation, hard because my position with children could be weakened by not acting and I need to secure my accommodation as it is needed for my work permit. Again I think she tries to provoke by not saying if she has acted.
Does anyone have good techniques for practicing validation and detachment?
Me 44 WAS 41 T 11 S 8 D 5 DB November 2012 EA and PA discovered December 2012 WAS moved out 4 May 2013 Share residence of S and D 50/50 WAS moves in with OM 1 September 2013.
