I can focus on myself when I am not at work or when I don't see H ...but when I do, I tend to analyze everything he does, his actions etc. and it makes me paranoide.
Think of it like you are baking a cake and it needs to stay in the oven for so much time.(Lets say 2 hours)
If every 5 minutes you go and open the door to check to see if its done, do you think your cake will be successful?
If you take it out and try to eat it after 30 mins, how will it taste.
OK now your husband is the cake and the cooking time is years. Stop checking him. He is not done yet!
