She started to say things that from my perspective were not true. I didnt voice this. She said things that were somewhat hurtful, I didnt say anything. I just told her after she was done speaking that I was not here to defend myself or clarify anything. That I was simply here to listen and understand her perspective and to try and figure out how I can best help put our relationship back together. She agreed to. I slept in bed last night for the first time in 6 weeks!
Good job!!! It sounds like maybe you could have validated more during the conversation instead of just remaining silent, but you did validate at the end and you didn't try to explain/ rationalize/ defend, so "way to go"!
