I just want to find a solid proof that she's still communicating with him so I can file for D.
Is your state a "no fault" divorce state? Most are now. If so, then it doesn't matter whether you have proof of an affair or not because regardless of what has happened, neither party is assigned any blame in "no fault" cases.
Originally Posted By: newman7977
But W has been very sad the last couple of days. Maybe they had a fight? Or maybe OM W confronted OM
Or maybe she saw a dead cat on the side of the road on the way home, or maybe her friend is sick, etc. etc. Don't try to guess, you might just ask her. Don't ask "what's wrong" (because the answer will always be "nothing"), try something like "seems like you've been down lately, how are you feeling?" If she starts expressing her feelings then remember to validate.
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@Sandi2- If I recall correctly when you decided to fight the temptation to see OM, how did you want your husband to interact with you during those withdrawal stage? Did you want your husband to pursue you?
I read Sandi's whole sitch and although it's been a while, I recall her pretty clearly stating that she did NOT want pursuit in any way, shape or form. She needed time and space, and I think I remember her saying any pursuit just came off as clingy/ needy behavior. I think Mandy said the same thing. In Mandy's case it took her H completely letting go before she started to miss him. Sandi's journey was a little different because she found this site while she was in the thick of it and people here were able to help her navigate what she was going through.
