Hi reb9597 --thanks for responding! It is amazing that he went, I am trying to keep that in perspective. But today he put the deposit down on his apartment so it is really tough. He said he needs to do that but is still willing to do the Retrouvaille weekends because "he trusts my judgement" and "we have nothing to lose." I have been thanking him for going and praised him. He obviously can't or won't say he actually wants to work on the marriage. He is just doing this, partially, to check off a box, I think. But I guess I should just go with it.
We are in the New England area. I hope perhaps you can convince your H to go--even if it ends up not working for us, I think it is pretty amazing.
