Had session with my therapist this morning. She said she felt that it was nit a good idea at this point to have W sit down and tell me her reasons for leaving. She stated that my W has told me several reasons already fr her leaving - unhappy, mean things said in arguments, not as helpful after her sickness around the house, felt like I didn't like her a lot of times. My therapist worries that it may be more of here's examples of you failing, and it won't be productive, just hurtful for me. She worries that my W has not stated any goal for her in having the conversation....
I'm very torn now. I'm trying to look at this as a positive. I asked her for this fr. Day 1, and now she is saying she is ready... And I know it could be a very cathartic thing for her, and be an eye opener if I can be quiet, not argue and validate her feelings. She may see more of a different person. I just fear, truly fear that she doesn't care and this is another checkbox on her list...
