Taking a step back-a fresh start

[Spartan]

I've definitely come to realize that this all on me. I control what I am capable of and what I want in life. It's time to put it all together.

I agree.

Question, what do you want in life?

She said she didn't even want to be there last night because she was so tired and stressed about this horse show. I wanted to give her a big dose of reality and tell her how selfish she is being and ridiculous it is to be so stressed about something he supposedly has a such a passion for. I bit my tongue instead and just said sorry to hear that.

I'm glad you didn't give her a dose of anything because it sounds like it's your reality and not hers. Her reality is something is stressing her out and you telling her she's wrong to feel that way would not have gone well. Could have been a good time to validate her a little and ask what it is that's stressing her out?

And even if she didn't want to be there she was there, tired and stressed out, she was still there. I know many WAS that completely miss events or show up extremely late when they've told the kids they'd be there... Something to think about.

I remember when I was younger I loved paying baseball, it was my absolute passion. Before the big games/ tournaments I would be really stressed out and not nice to be around. I eventually figured it out (I put extreme pressure on myself to perform for team) and worked through it and things got better for me and people around me. Just because she has a passion for something doesn't mean she can't stress over it.