Apology I've posted a few very specific questions as couldn't figure out what was going on... A few posted back to keep a continuous thread going. Sorry that I broke the db forum norms.
Background Been M about 13 years. Been super in synch with just about everything except communication, W avoids conflict at any cost. I'm not a fan of it either... I will discuss uncomfortable topics. During this time we had some great times... And avoided personal issues. We didnt have a ton and were in synch on most issues.
Fast forward.... Lived through a bunch of miscarriages etc.... Navigated the family business.... Then conceived a wonderful stunning little D. I was the stay at home parent. Id work evenings weekends and nights to ensure that W didn't feel Iike she was the only one carrying all the weight, The result was that we were passing in the night and not spending a ton of time together both of us ended up feeling abandoned.
I thought long and hard about this and in January of this year came to the decision that something would have to change. .me..... I didnt like what my schedule was tuning us into... I'd come to the realization that there were some personal traits that I needed to stop or change.
Were so in synch that this was the exact time she requested a separation. I wasn't heard as the wheels were already in motion.
I then went full on doing all the pursuit things were not supposed to do....
