Chris when I did it with my W it was not a miracle turnaround, those expectations will hurt you, this is going to take months, not weeks. No single event is going to unlock the door. In my case, W had a wall up regarding some things she didn't like about me. She just assumed I wouldn't want to hear it and wouldn't change it so she was just going to hold it in and write me off.

Prior to that I had been throwing darts with my 180's because I had precious little feedback about what mattered and what was just noise. That meeting gave me more to go on and afforded me more focus. In the end they were silly things that took virtually no effort to change, I just never knew she was bothered because she never spoke up about it.

Had we not had the meeting the wall would have stayed up much longer if not forever. Yes it was frustrating and difficult to hear, but made a big difference that I just listened.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015