Well she bought a house down the street from my new place. I looked at that one when looking. Mine is way nicer.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
That sounds like a good thing for your kids; they will be able to see both of you more and have an easier life not needing to be driven from one home to the other. What's with the competitive snarky comment?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
I dunno Ad, sometimes I feel a little snarky too...like when I may have possibly stalked ex OW on the alt and even though she is an athlete blah blah....my half time was two seconds better...
Maybe a little snarky AD, but at least I say mine on here to vent. She chooses direct with me and public forum, friends, family and the kids with hers. And if you only knew how much money she is seeking, and has wasted and/or hidden and how she has conducted herself.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
I had to get to work, but wanted to add. I used to do that a lot, well he did X, so I'm justified in doing Y. That can go on forever, someone has to stop the cycle.
Your initial remark was flip but then your justification revealed more. It's in those places where we can really grow when we are able to face our actions and their motivations and ask "Is this who I want to be?"
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
If you've decided to land on "bitter" that's up to you. You won't get anyone saying you don't deserve to be bitter after what you're going through. But like Bug said, one person can decide to just step off that cycle. (They don't have to, they can choose to stay bitter and resentful, or they may never see it as a choice or decision and they then stay bitter because they don't see an alternative.)
This is a safe place to vent, but the fact that your house is better than hers didn't sound like venting. I thought it might be worth challenging your thinking a little on that.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Well she bought a house down the street from my new place. I looked at that one when looking. Mine is way nicer.
But it has a huge selling point, you're not there, LOL! My W is renting a dumpy little house in a less-than-spectacular neighborhood. It's a huge step down from my house/ neighborhood. At first I thought there was no way she'd be happy there, she'd see how lousy a sitch it was and come running back. I was wrong. Never discount how badly they want to be away from us, it's a powerful motivator for them to accept lesser conditions.
