After phone coaching session #2

[azguy]

Just checking in to say hang in there. Are you going for another MC appointment sometime soon? If he is agreeing to go to another one, no matter what he said the last one, it's another opportunity to improve things. You're really doing great.

I've run into those life situations, like your D college choice, where I told myself "It should have been this way." Mostly while I was married. I've felt more recently that this was damaging. The present what is what it is. You can cherish what is good about it, (your D were perhaps closer because you made the decision together), you can use it to motivate how you want to shape the future (you may want to work to bring your H into future decisions). Regrets or criticism are just a byproduct of your brain forgetting the present is now here and can't be changed.

You've done the best you can do with the tools you've had (by the way, can you say the same about your H? I know your D is disappointed, but she doesn't know the full story). I find starting from this point is a good way to approach the future (what you want to change, what you want to cherish). Hope these sort of random thoughts help.