KD said it best ^^^^^^^^ . This is your new MO for a long time...please read it again and again until it is ingrained in you....
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Even if you feel you need to explain that the silence or lack of comm was driving you crazy and that you needed to know... something... Don't. No rationalizations or justifications. just validate.
When i started doing this ^^^^ consistently...no defense, etc, my W really noticed (after quite a long bit of testing me)...it changed the dynamic. I was was always one to defend myself in the past..this 180 had her scratching her head with a "wtf" look on her face, I didn't react like she expected me to...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
