I'm just worried that this an effort on her part to justify her decision and just keep moving on...in other words, "Look Chris, here is more evidence of how bad you were to me"...
Maybe, maybe not, she may not even know the reason. Important part is she's willing to do it so it means she still cares. Even more important is this is a huge opportunity for you to really listen to her, validate her feelings, and see just how badly she's been hurting and the reasons why.
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guess I am just so fragile mentally and emotionally right now I don't know if I can take the criticism and hurt. But, I also think, this is the type of conversation she thinks that I wold have argued and not listened to her when we were under the same roof. So, if I listen and validate, it may go a ways in helping her process the hurt, and showing her a new Chris?
No doubt, some of the stuff is going to be tough to hear and you will likely want to defend yourself. Just man up, "drink a cup of STFU", listen and try to understand every word she says regarding her feelings. You can do this!
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
