His main concern is that he can't get his feelings back and wonders if we ultimately want different things out of the marriage (although he admits that is less of a concern as of late as he says he can see the progress I've made opening up, etc.) We were intimate as of 2 weeks ago and then said it was just too much. He wonders if there is someone else out there for both of us who will make us happy. He wants to live a "fulfilled life" and "doesn't want to settle."
He knows he should put the pain in the past, not to forget it, but to learn from it, etc--he knows this intellectually but is having a hard time doing it. As our MC said, it takes time, but he doesn't want to give it time.
No concerns about how we get along. We respect each other, still get along well, have the same interests, have 2 great boys, etc. His therapist told him she was amazed how much compassion we have for each other.
Is this a MLC? He just seems to want to move on to greener pastures. He says that "I've done everything right" and he doesn't know why "he just can't get on board." Everything seems to point to his having an affair but I don't think he is. He has always been a bit of a tortured soul.
thank you for any insight, advice, etc
Me 47/H 47 M 19/T 21 S 11 S 11 BD #1: April 2012 H Moved out 11/2012 for 2 months BD #2: H "can't do this anymore, wants divorce" 4/10/2013 Retrouvaille 4/19/2013
