My C pointed out yesterday why would he go?? It is so comfortable for him. Then I pointed out, it may be comfortable but he was the one that was so miserable and unhappy and thought I was not giving him attention, remember? He was the one who couldn't live with his family any more. So , now is is suddenly so comfortable and familiar that he can't go? Makes no sense.
Word for word this is what my H said to me! But, he's the kicker, he still believes he's free to come and go, who's going to stop him? He said he is not staying for the family, or me, he stays because he can, and he likes the perks of home, but it's for him! If I really want him out I will have to take a stand, change the locks, push him, basically do my dirty work!
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We are void of emotion in our home too. Stinks. Starting to feel almost robotic. I won't compete with the OW. She can have him. What is wrong with a woman who dates a man that has a wife and living with another family?
We are also robots w/some sense of politeness at times, my S21 will not even speak to his dad, the others just laugh! S21 was the closest to h, looks like him and works w/him, today he told client he will not work on same stage w/h.
If H's left to be with the skanks of choice, they would fail and have to face to much, so as long as they can live in the comfort of home and visit skanks, skank life looks great, we look like the angry LBS who gives him justification for what he's doing. Like my H said, w/ea he's not a H, not a F, not paying her bills, not needed to mow the lawn.
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
