Totally agree with AS - my sitch isn't going to necessarily mirror yours. And my "maybe" explanation is mine, it may have no connection at all to how your H is feeling.
I couldn't have told you what was going on in my head a year ago - and now, well, my explanation is just my perspective.
I asked a very close friend soon after my H and I first reconnected if she'd be surprised if I told her I was having second thoughts...she said "what took you so long?" - for a long time, I was mad at her for not saying what she was thinking - but now I realize I wouldn't have heard her and even if I had, I may have ignored her - completely.
It took my H about 3 months to pull himself together, from that point we didn't communicate at all. At one point, about 4-5 months in, I was sure he had no interest in me or us anymore - hence my consideration for moving halfway across the country.
At 2, 4 even 6 months in (and sometimes even today) I believed it was too soon to try again. In my head, I was thinking we'd run into each other a year or two down the road - not months! That in time we would be able to move past our issues and we would possibly reconnect.
