just reading your thread. as a woman- with an h that is very non-verbal about such things. and now, of course, he's out there being all mlc. it's hard to go thru life always filling in the blanks on your own. when your h doesn't SAY stuff- you just have to try to read the signs and assume alot. i'd say i've gotten quite alot wrong- because of this when it comes to his mlc. of course, he was just plain ole lying about nothing being wrong- it's him, etc.
BUT- I'M JUST here to say- i can feel your quandry. you want to express it because that's what was wrong- lack of communication when it came to your feelings. i get itmen keep that junk in and it's not "their nature". yeah- rite.
i'd just say- say what you feel - when ever you feel it. doesn't have to be squshy or sappy- but honest. can't feel if you go with your gut. (unless your gut says - don't talk) then don't go with him.
it's hard isn't it- all this damn second guessing and "having strategy". something i'm not good at and not used to - and probably never will be.
oh well huh- girls don't want to give up on their boys- it's just that after a bunch of years - we start to realize we only know what you tell us. and, if you're not telling us- well, we stop knowing it and we get too "done" guessing.
sorry you're here- good luck - you sound nice so maybe it's not too late for you both to patch something up.
me- i'd take any honest communication or expression any time. if it's real- she'll know & feel it.
