There is a lot of valuable information, not only in Cadet's link but in the MLC Archives. When you have time, you might want to browse the Archives. If there is something in particular that you are looking for go the top of the forum, hit search, type in the word or phrase and then it go.

She may not apologize for being mean and rude, especially if she's been that way to you.

I'm really sorry you are having to go through this. It's a difficult journey for anyone, especially the mlcer. Keep the faith and dig deeper for patience. Give your w the time and space she needs to figure things out. Hopefully when her crisis is over she will come to realize what a wonderful husband and family that she had.

Please take care of yourself. Okay?

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.