Suckerpunch down to the wire

[25yearsmlc]

I don't believe for a minute someone would refuse to return because of your wife.

That's insane. And I don't even think YOU believe it down deep...come on.

She left you. Okay...so why would these folks give a rat's butt if they like CAMPING at your family's place?

As others said, though, she'll be gone soon enough.

You worry that she's there, and now you worry that she's leaving. You forget quickly how you got here. You complain, now, about the future...30 years from now and that even if you reconciled, YOU could never be sure of her.

What about HER TRUST issues? How or why would she believe taking you back would result in better treatment?

What if she had another child with you and became even more financially dependent on you, only to have you begin your negative vortex on her again, and bring her self esteem down again?

What about how hurt she was for so long?

you're both wounded people, but if there is a "victim" here, I'm not so sure it's you. I do know you both love your d, and I hope you'll stop assuming you love your d more, b/c you were willing to treat your wife badly for a long time and she left you.

SP

we all take the risk of rejection with love. Even with commitment.

We are not entitled to mistreat our spouses because they took a vow to stay with us. We are not allowed to assume they'll always stay because....because....

because we SAY we would...