It's silly I know but the last 2 days I've had this overwhelming feeling that I have wanted to send my Wife an email asking her to work on our marriage. I know it wouldn't achieve anything other than pushing her further away but I want her to know that I'm still prepared to work on on our marriage... It's very difficult.
I'm going to stray from DB'ing a bit here and say what I think- if it makes you feel better then do it. I did it a couple of times and it made no difference in my sitch, but it did make me feel better in knowing without a doubt that W knew my position. And for that alone it was worth it to me. But if you do it, don't do it in a begging/ pleading/ groveling manner. I'll give you an example, when my W requested D info via my brother I sent it to her along with this message (this was just last week):
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I’m pretty sure you know where I stand on this, but let me just say one last time that if this is what you want, then I support your decision and will sign the papers, but I still feel like we should at least give reconciliation a try. I don’t expect you to want to go back to what we had before because clearly it didn’t work for either of us. But that doesn’t mean we can’t build a new relationship and marriage that is far better than what we had before. I’m not asking you to make a commitment or move back in tomorrow or anything. I’m just asking for you to try a little, open the door to building a new relationship, and give it some time to see how it develops. I think we owe it to the kids and ourselves to at least try. But if you want to push forward with a divorce I won’t do anything to block the process.
I hope your day goes well!
So basically I let her know that the door is still open to reconciliation, but I did NOT say that I was waiting forever for her, or that I was a doormat she could wipe her feet on whenever she pleased, or that I'm a sure thing she can just move back in with whenever she wants, or that I'm going to fight her wishes. I think that if you phrase it with similar sentiments then you can get your point across without it being a lot of pressure on her.
