What has been the problem with communication? Have you and your W had sex yet since all this started?
I remember that I suggested that you tell your W that the two of you go into counseling immediately, but you said no because you didn't want to scare her off.
Your feelings of "waiting for the other shoe to drop" is because you have never addressed any of the issues from before.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.