Portia, this must be very difficult for you. I know I would be very tempted to make contact. But as hard as it is I would stick to what everyone is saying and don't make contact. This could be what is needed in your sitch for him to see he is making a mistake.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
I will not contact him. I would like to think that he will miss me, but I don't think that he will. After all, we have been apart and long-distance for some time and he has a new friend to keep him company. The main reason I would like not to give into the urge to contact him is that I need to be more accepting of the situation. Your comments will help with that.
Portia, Just dropping by to send you hugs and positive thoughts. I agree that you are doing the right thing by not contacting him, as hard as it may be. Take care of yourself.
Melting, thank you for stopping by...I hope everything is going well with you. I am sure it is an adjustment.
Mr. 2.4, I am honoured to receive your first online hug. Thank you to both you and Mtnman for your support.
Hey MizJ, Thank you for your support as always. I am generally a very private person and it still feels a bit strange to me that "strangers" know more of my secrets than anybody else. I found unkindness in one part of my life only to find it someplace else.
Thank you to all of you.
There has been no contact from xSO. MizJ, I love your optimism, that somehow progress might be made. With him, IDK. With me, I am moving ahead slowly. After the adrenaline rush of the last nine months - xSO, my parent and losses of others (10 sympathy cards, if you can believe it) - I am starting to come down. In some ways it feels closer to BD than it did a couple of months ago.
For me, one mountain at a time. My mental health has suffered and consequently my work. That is where I would like to put my concentration - simply reestablishing a daily routine. Not exciting, but what I need. Cocentrating on building my life without him in it. It is difficult; he still occupies way too much of my time and thoughts but I am aiming for a little less everyday.
Lesson #936: This process is not quick for anyone, or at least it isn't for me.
Just journalling today, feeling slightly off colour.
There has been no contact from xSO. It will be three weeks tomorrow that we had our relationship chat where I told him that continuing our relationship while he is in pursuit of another woman and a family would not be healthy for either of us. Seems he is agreeing with me.
MLC...is so destructive. Reading about it and experiencing it are two totally separate things. Even then because each person is different, I can only guess that life is not a barrel of laughs for him right now. Still, he is supposed to be getting counselling...isn't it supposed to help? Of course, she would only be hearing his side of the tale. I guess even after all of this I wished he missed me.
As I am getting along in my own life, I feel that we have never been further apart. He once said to me that he could hardly wait until "this" was over and done with. Well, I know exactly how that feels.
Alrighty, time to perk up and start on the daily To Do List!
Hey Portia - Sorry to hear you are having a down day. Take H's no contact as good...rather nothing than spew right?I'd take three weeks right now, rather than what I am getting.
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MLC...is so destructive. Reading about it and experiencing it are two totally separate things.
Yes it is...and I am seeing that things get worse before they get better...
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As I am getting along in my own life, I feel that we have never been further apart. He once said to me that he could hardly wait until "this" was over and done with. Well, I know exactly how that feels.
Yeah, I hear you girl...I am starting to feel these same emotions...
But as you say Perk up and get on with your day! Everything will be what you make it and I know you will make it good, right?
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
