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[PatientMan]

I am here for her no matter what, but I am not here to be used and walked over. She has to treat me with respect and honesty, and I do not believe that has been the case...at least in full. I DO believe she has been trying to sort through her feelings, but she has done that while in contact with the other man, and that is where the line has been crossed. She has stayed with him emotionally while using me for financial support until she was capable of stepping away and being on her own/supporting herself. I do not believe she intentionally “used” me, but it is effectually what she has done. This was and is wrong. I WANT her to be happy, but using me, being dishonest to me, dishonoring me and our relationship, stringing me and the kids along...all these are wrong.

If I let her know I know about her contact with the other man, this may make her angry and help burn the bridge to me. Am I okay with this? Should I just be vague about what I know? I don’t know.

Being there for her no matter what (as I promised myself I would do) doesn’t mean she can do whatever she wants and I'm just here waiting as the pathetic little backup option. There is merit to never quitting, and I am not quitting (and I take pride in that). A relationship is a two way street and she has to do her part.

What she has done crossed my line. If she can’t see or doesn’t want what I have to offer, then I let her go. I don’t want to, but I have to. I can love her and let her be.

-PM